Neither Praise nor abuse kids for any of their actions. It is when you praise or abuse the kids, they start creating an image about themselves. For example, if you praise a kid for his silent behaviour, he starts thinking that being silent will always be rewarded and he starts believing that silence is part of his true nature. By this belief, he also feels that he is incapable of expressing himself as it is against silence. So the very silence for which he was initially rewarded becomes his own trap out of which he can never escape. Similarly, if a child is condemned or punished for being slow, he starts creating an image of himself as being slow. Since he was not rewarded but punished for this behaviour, he tries to be fast by hard effort but always fails in such attempts which causes him to feel like he is a failure or worthless. This causes him more frustration and ill effects both physically and mentally in the later part of his life. Is it possible to stop praising and ab...